As Feb. 14 approaches with schedules wide open (again), many are reminded they are missing their ‘other half’ or have no significant other. That means no bouquet of roses, chocolates or fancy dinners gifted by a partner — but rather just another Monday. There is a growing pressure to be in a healthy relationship when Valentine’s Day rolls around, and we entertain the idea that materialistic items represent our love for one another. But love is not measured in rings or candy, and it shouldn’t take a holiday for one to show their love for others. 

At its core, Valentine’s Day is centered around love. This doesn’t have to be romantic love; it can be love for yourself, friends or family. With that being said, it’s hard to imagine Valentine’s Day without a special someone in your life — but that special someone doesn’t have to be a love interest. Let’s look at love more universally, rather than dedicating this day specifically to romance. 

If you find yourself scrambling through the internet looking for ways to find a date or how to spend your Valentine’s Day — stop looking. Here is your ultimate guide to making your perfect Valentine’s Day, without the compliance of a romantic relationship, but rather a celebration of ubiquitous love: 

1. Galentine’s Day 

Who said Valentine’s Day can’t be spent with your best friends, family, cousins or other loved ones? Have a date with someone you love and celebrate your platonic connections by grabbing a bite to eat, watching a movie or just having a meaningful conversation. Strengthen the relationships you have instead of dwelling on what you don’t. Galentine’s Day first became popular from the sitcom “Parks and Recreation” in 2010, but has since grown to be a celebration and appreciation for our friendships. You don’t need to be alone on this day! Surround yourself with people you love. 

2. All About Me Day

Self-care can be perceived as narcissistic or self-centered, but it’s love nonetheless. Spend the 14th relaxing and treating yourself — you deserve it! Sleep in, take a bath, watch a movie, shop — listen to your body and what it desires. Give yourself a break and prioritize yourself, instead of worrying about gifts for your partner. You could also go for a nice walk, have a spa day, exercise or read a comforting book. Every day is a new opportunity to be great — and Valentine’s Day is a perfect chance to do so. 

3. Explore the World of Culinary Day

If you are trying to make time pass quickly on Valentine’s Day, cook or bake something! With millions of recipes on the internet and in cookbooks, try baking a cake, making homemade pasta or experimenting with something new. The world of cooking is limitless and particularly time-consuming. Cook an eight-course meal for your family and indulge in yummy recipes and quality conversation. 

4. Write kind love letters to your favorite people 

Think back to your elementary classroom on Valentine’s Day, carrying your decorated shoe box and bag of Sweet Hearts with an attached note for each of your classmates. Why not do that now? Spend some time drafting sweet messages to those who mean the most to you and make their Valentine’s Day full of more love. We must appreciate the people in our lives who impacted who we are today. Acknowledge them on Valentine’s Day because you love and cherish these relationships. 

5. Devour Day 

Who isn’t filled with joy when they consume food? Buy yourself a box of chocolate (who said it needed to be gifted?), feast on chocolate-covered strawberries or eat a home-cooked meal. Although the stigma of eating alone on Valentine’s Day may linger, book a reservation at your favorite restaurant — who cares? Though your night may be filled with “Are you waiting for someone else?” encounters, recognize your strong independence and congratulate yourself for being comfortable in your own skin, instead of relying on the company of others. Again, Valentine’s Day is about love, not societal approval of being in a relationship, so do what you love. Feast on Valentine’s Day because food is the best love of all.

We are not limited on Valentine’s Day to express our love for our connections in life. When the day rolls around every year, remember you aren’t excluded from this day because you are single. Love exists everywhere. Tell your family and friends you love them and make the best out of this holiday which is in your control.